At the beginning of this year I was entirely happy with my relationships. I had an old friend and ex-wife whom I loved in an understated way (Jenny) and a girlfriend (Anne) with whom I was in love. And both relationships were of long standing
But that was disrupted when Anne started a close relationship with G.. So I was no longer first priority in her life. I was greatly upset by the change.
I decided that I needed to get a new girlfriend. Given my poor level of strength and fitness, however, that did not have a good prospect of success.
Despite that I got close to my goal a couple of times. A couple of nice ladies did take a serious interest in me. But it was not close enough. Forbidding difficuties arose.
Nonetheless I continued trying. While I was trying however I leant more and more heavily on Jenny for my social life. Whatever I asked of her she gladly did. In particular, I spent more and more evenings having dinner at her place.
It eventually came about that she was cooking me dinner 6 nights a week. So it finally dawned on me that I didn't need a new girlfriend after all. I had support from Jenny that was a considerable fraction of the support she gave me when we were married. She cheerfully revived major parts of our marriage. So that relationship was way better than what I could have hoped from any new girlfriend. So I abandoned my search for a new girlfriend some time ago
Meanwhile, Anne had never ceased spending some time with me, even though she was by then largely shacked up with G.. To continue to see me every week for meals despite a strong new relationship was of course a testimony to how strong the bond between us had been all along.
So I am now in a sense where I began. The same two ladies who were in my life at the beginning of the year are also the ones in my life towards the end of the year. The balance between them has however changed. I am completely happy and at ease with my semi-revived marriage and also delighted to see Anne one a week. I have transitioned from one happy state to another. I have every reason to believe that that will continue
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